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Live Your Happy Life

12 Things To Let Go Of Today

Nicole Burch

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           If you are anything like me, I used to drive myself crazy (and sometimes still do!) doing some of these things! Its all a work in progress, but I can already feel the difference! If you want to be on your way to living a happier, more fulfilling life, here are 12 things to let go of today! I know, its easier said than done in some cases! But, these 12 things can really change your life!

Controlling Everything

There are things we can control in life and things we can not control. The only things we can truly control is our response, and attitude.

Trying To Please Everyone

Not everyone is going to agree with your decisions, and that is perfectly okay. Just be yourself, and the right people will stay in your life.


You will save yourself much disappointment by not feeling entitled to being happy 100% of the time. Bad things happen to everyone, and there is no way around that.

Resentment & Guilt

We never really know what people are going through when they act in different ways. Resentment only hurts us, what purpose does resentment have in your life? Guilt can be just as bad. Holding onto the past either way is a burden on our health. Forgive yourself, forgive others, and move on.

Fear Of Failure & Perfectionism

We are often afraid of what we don't know. Failure is all part of the process. Its common to not so much be afraid of failure but afraid of who is watching. This goes back to letting go of your expectations of people, and that includes letting go of what you think they think about you. Perfectionism can kill productivity. Be detail oriented, but not to the point where you are stuck on one task for much longer than you should be. You will drive yourself crazy trying to be perfect since we live in an imperfect world.

Pride & Ego

To truly forgive someone or admit mistakes (because yes, we all make them!), pride and ego has to stay in check. There is no room for ego in a happy life.

Unhealthy Relationships & Negativity

Maybe you have someone in your life right now that you love dearly, but the relationship may actually be unhealthy for you. It's definitely easier said than done, but at what point will you decide enough is enough and let it go? Negativity can really be a problem if you are trying to live a happy life. It can be especially difficult if they are family, but if you want to live the happy life, you just may have to let them go. 

Fear Of Change

Fear can paralyze us and put us in the mindset of not wanting change, even if it is good. Someone once told me that fear stands for "False Evidence Appearing Real". Lets think of how many times we think the worst case scenario, and that scenario actually never happens? That's our fear talking. Now, this doesn't mean don't plan for the worst case, but it just means don't let it consume your mind. 

Comparing Yourself To Others

It doesn't serve us to compare ourselves with others. Each moment we spend comparing ourself to others we take ourselves away from living the happy life. 

All Expectations You Have For People

Each and every time we set an expectation for anyone, we set ourself up to be potentially disappointed or hurt. If we don't set these unrealistic expectations for people, we may just be happier. How many times have you set an expectation for someone, and how disappointed were you when they didn't meet that expectation?

Past Disappointments & Hardships

This applies to disappointments you have in others and yourself. We can refer back to the last point about letting go of all expectations we have for other people. But, when it comes to yourself, maybe you disappointed someone else, or maybe you disappointed yourself. Forgive yourself first and foremost. Secondly, disappointing others can be a hard pill to swallow sometimes. However, at some point we have to ask ourself, why are we holding on to this? and why does their disappointment hold so much space in our life? Now, that doesn't go without saying that yes, we should be mindful and not intentionally hurt people. But, if it really wasn't intentional, forgive yourself, and learn from your mistakes. 

Fear Of Abandonment

Fear has no place in a happy heart. Fear really does paralyze us, and fear of abandonment can no doubt be a difficult issue to work through. No doubt that it is easier said than done when you may have had a traumatic experience. It can be a work in progress, but one step forward everyday will lead us to a happier life.

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